Wednesday, June 14, 2017

Nom De Plume

This blog is going offline in...A month, maybe. I'll post a link to the new one once I figure out what it is. See, the thing is, I have done a lot of writing, almost none of it under my name.
 I don't really mind if people know but I feel that a casual observer should have to put at least a little bit of work into figuring out the connection.
Also, I like attaching names to genres and since I intend to be a research psychologist I'll probably be publishing a lot of non fiction under my own name.
This is why having a writing blog with my name on it doesn't make sense.

Bis Spȁter.

How to Deal with Being a Toxic Person

This is a post for people who have trouble getting along with others because of certain personality quirks. I happen to be one of them though that's become less of a problem as I've made an effort to improve. I know it's not about writing but it might apply to a lot of writers since being able to think about negative things makes it easier to write about them. If this isn't a topic you're interested in stop reading.

So, you grew up in a family full of negative people. You hung out with a bunch of "losers".
People don't like you because of how harsh you are, how biting your comments are or how much you dwell on things. They don't like your destructive behavior.

Well, join the club, I guess.

I see posts online about avoiding toxic people. Cutting ties with them is the way to be happier. Articles will tell you how to recognize them. These are the same sites and blogs where the advice is dispensed to cut ties with people who aren't the kind of people you want to be.

I find this advice worrying. It suggests that if you find a damaged thing you should cut and run even if you can do something about it. It's all about the healthy person not being dragged down. There's no real acknowledgement that toxic people are just like you, people. Just like everybody else they can be bad people or good people and maybe they should be avoided. But maybe, just maybe, they grew up differently and don't even know what they're doing.

This post is for people who are toxic; The black holes wandering around haplessly sucking out the happiness. This is for you.

Here's what I know about being the little black hole sucking up everyone's ray of sunshine.

1. People don't like to overthink things or think about them at all. Relatively shallow interactions rule in casual conversation. Gory, depressing details are only for those who you know might be interested.

2. Negative emotions shouldn't be restated. If you find someone who wants to hear about what crap your day is, they still don't usually want to hear you howling like a hound dog. That's something that even close friends and family have limited patience for.

3. Just because you're willing to get as good as you give, listening to misery and hours of detail, it doesn't mean everyone you talk to is. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you, isn't how it works. You only treat people how you want to be treated if it adheres to standard societal practices. Strangers don't usually like back scratches so you can't give them and never have an itchy back anymore.

4. Don't take things on face value. People, as depressing as it may seem, are more concerned with their own worlds than they are with everything going on, especially with you, even if they ask. It's not necessarily a bad thing. By remaining more concerned with their own things they maintain more sense of self. If you aren't much effected by how people act around you than you're probably egocentric too. Gaining a better sense of how people are different might help you to understand why a person withdraws from a perfectly honest answer.

5. Try not to resent the world. People are adaptable. You aren't stuck being the way you are and neither are other people. All it takes is self awareness to start changing your behavior if you wish. Regardless of what other articles say about withdrawing from toxic people, that's only one way to do things but people generally have their own best interests at heart and harsh judgement just oversimplifies them as people. True, they're oversimplifying you but someone has to take the high ground for improvements to be made. Also, bitterness makes you miserable.

6. If you're engaging in negative behavior take a good hard look at it and really decide if you think it's negative behavior. Explore why others might no like it and figure out whether you hurt people with it. Really try to get in someone else's shoes and, above all, don't decide that because you're in more pain than them or you are more damaged that you've got more rights than them. Being hurt is still bad and different people deal differently with stress and pain. You could be mean to someone and that's the last straw. On the other hand, you could get in a fist fight with someone and it's just another Monday. Generally, when people hurt others it's the person doing the hurting lashing out without thought for the other person. Allowances should be made for the abusive person, despite what others may say, because in certain circles, abuse doesn't have the same gravity. I say allowances meaning consideration for situation and upbringing not a free pass.
That said, hurting people without thought is still not a good thing. There are behaviors that aren't a good thing and if you engage in them you probably haven't really figured out what your thoughts are on them.
If you decide you like the behaviors anyway and they're very destructive, well, for now you're a bad person.

If you decide they're bad and really believe it it shouldn't be beyond you to make a change.

 If you decide they aren't damaging to others and that they aren't necessarily bad, then maybe you should look into different friends because you guys have a difference of opinion and they've shown a lack of tolerance for you.

That is one reason to get different friends; If you aren't really friends and it's nothing but a morass of criticism. Now who's negative?


Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Book in Progress

I have a friend who is working on a fantasy detective novella. I'm helping him with it. Look forward to the title before the end of summer. :)

Monday, March 27, 2017

Iron Fist Clothing

I have some problems with the Iron Fist series.
Why do Danny and Davos wear such dirty looking robes at the entrance to K'un Lun? There aren't any apprentice monks doing needlessly intricate martial arts training/laundry?
Monastery does not mean dingy. I feel like even making the assumption is insulting.
Maybe I'm wrong but I doubt it. A heavenly monastery at that.

Old iron fist (from the reel) got head to toe dark clothing that looks like ninja garb, complete with mask? New Iron Fist gets pretty(if they were cleaner) green and gold robes that look almost greasy?
Costume design for this show is weird especially since the monks who rescued him seemed to have plain but unstained orange robes.

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

WW The Girl (some violence)

I lost my job because of a girl.
I went to France because of a girl.
I got a dog because of a girl, also a lizard.

I should really learn to think for myself. Nah, other people make big decisions based on lots of thought and stuff. I just wait until a nice body part attached to a woman walks by. It's served me well. Sure, I've been in jail a few times and Jacey (my dog) has had to be dewormed more times than I can count but life isn't boring and you just roll with it and things turn out fine.

I looked over at Basilisk my bearded dragon just as the door burst in, a gun went off and his little head disappeared in a spray of blood, his body flung to the far end of his tank.
"What the frack! What the frack! What did you do to my lizard!"
The woman who walked in first turned and shot the man who followed right through the side of his skull. He fell and she turned to me. I couldn't see her eyes behind her shades but she smiled. "He shot your lizard," she explained. "We don't just do that. Sorry."

"Y-you you shot that guy." I saw her smile disappear and added quickly, "he shot Basilisk. I'm glad he's dead." I was pretty unhappy about both deaths but my mind blanked when she took off her sunglasses and shook out her long red black hair. It was happening again. I made a note to mourn Basilisk later because I was about to do something dumb.

"Hi, I'm Maddy and I want to know where-, she pulled a crumpled piece of paper a pocket in jeans that clung to her hips. "Adriana Phelps is."

I stood. "Uh, sure. I knew her a couple of years ago. I'm sure I've got a box with her shit somewhere around here. Maybe she's got the same cell number too."
After a few minutes of shoving and pulling I got the shoebox out of the hall closet. She hadn't left much. I'd only dated Adriana for a few months, just long enough for her to convince me to buy a canoo. She took the canoo. "Here it is," I said, placing the box on the coffee table.
The woman sat down crosslegged and took the top off the Jimmy Choo box. "There isn't much here is there?" she said, taking out a few bottles of dried up nail polish.

"Yep, you want me to make you some tea?"

"No, do you have an espresso machine?"

My heart skipped a beat.

Sunday, January 8, 2017

Total Rewrite

So yeah.
I need to rewrite at least seventy percent of the story. I need to change the way the main character gets involved in the mystery and I just generally need to shift a lot of stuff around and restructure it if not replace it all together.

Now I know.
It would have been better if I hadn't gotten so stuck on the work that I decided to ignore its problems until now.

The word of the day is; Perspective.

Also, Wordy Wednesdays will be returning.

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

I Know the Problems

This story has a rich young lady who goes to a patent office where there are six other young ladies and somehow they all try to solve a murder.

I didn't have to do much ploting to understand the problem. Two separate stories that converge occasionally and when they do you have to coordinate seven characters even if it's only directly from one characters' point of view? That doesn't work.

The second thing I realized is that most of the young women would have to do other things with their time besides sit around. One could go along with the rich young lady, not all of them.

The third thing is that the rich young lady has two young men who might be interested in her. One gets two appearances and the other gets three. They either need to be cut or actually be part of the story.

There. I know the problems.

Here's the stuff that might be important to readers. Don't confuse the narrative unless you know that you're doing so and you have a point. I have no reason to do so. Some say never to do so but I believe a lot of different approaches can make a good story.

A linear plot with one or two mains interacting with things means it's easier to flesh out the details. When I say linear, I don't mean one thing leads to another or chronologically. I mean that scenes connect even if they take place at different times or the correlation isn't immediately evident. A random scene here or there that doesn't immediately connect is cool. Ten might be a problem unless you have a point. There should be connections if things are going to be easy. A book can be this complex thing with many characters and changing to that characters' point of view and that's great but that might not be the way you want to go to write a straight forward story. An epic tale yes, but not something that should have a simple series of events.

Monday, January 2, 2017

Character Profiles

Sorry, nothing today.
All I determined is that using my current main character would be cool but not with my six other main characters. One or the other.

She could have a support character but not six.

I almost feel like the book could be two separate ones.

The only characters that don't mesh are these seven.

Sunday, January 1, 2017

Ideas

I want to write a book that has steampunk elements and a mystery.
The main character should be female and the story should be Victorian.

 Main Character
A secretary in an organization.
A rich young lady.
A resourceful young woman.
An undercover agent for another organization who is stealing company secrets.
A group of young women who are tired of being taken advantage of.

Mystery
Someone dies
A series of murders (serial killer)
Theft?

Motivation
The main character is suspected of the murder.
The main character(s) wants justice.